You probably already know what you want to do. The real question is why you can't seem to let yourself do it.
A live 90-minute workshop with Donteacia Seymore. September 26, 11:00 AM to 1:00 PM ET, live online via Zoom.
Maybe you've been thinking about it for months.
You think about it. Talk yourself into it. Talk yourself back out of it.
Make the list. Ask your friends. Pray about it. Journal about it. Decide you're finally going to do something.
And then you don't.
- The relationship.
- The job.
- The boundary you know you need to set.
- The thing you need to stop doing.
- The thing you desperately want to start.
- The conversation you've been avoiding.
So you've started wondering why you can't just make a decision.
But what if deciding isn't actually the problem?
There's a story underneath your indecision.
- Maybe leaving means you failed.
- Maybe saying no means you're selfish.
- Maybe disappointing someone means you're a bad mother, daughter, partner or friend.
- Maybe starting over means admitting you got it wrong.
- Maybe choosing yourself means becoming someone you were taught not to be.
And as long as that story remains untouched, you can make all the pros-and-cons lists in the world and still find yourself right back where you started.
Because you're not just trying to make a decision. You're trying to make a decision without disturbing the story you've spent years believing about who you're supposed to be.
That's what we're going to work on.
In 90 minutes, we're going underneath the decision.
This isn't a workshop where I'm going to tell you what you should do with your life. And I'm definitely not going to tell you to quit your job, leave your marriage, cut everybody off and go find yourself. That's not how I work.
Instead, I'm going to help you take one decision you've been circling and look at what's actually making it so difficult to move. We'll work through:
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What you actually want.
Before we deal with everybody else's opinions, needs and reactions, we're going to get honest about what you want.
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The story underneath your indecision.
We'll uncover what you've made this decision mean about you, your identity and the person you believe you're supposed to be.
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What's true versus what you've made true.
We'll separate the actual consequences and responsibilities surrounding your decision from the fear, assumptions and stories you've attached to them.
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What staying is costing you.
Because we spend a lot of time calculating the risk of changing while pretending staying the same doesn't have a cost.
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Your next honest move.
You don't have to figure out the next five years of your life during this workshop. You do need to know what comes next.
The Story Under the Decision™
During the workshop, I'll walk you through an exercise I created to help you uncover what's actually sitting underneath the decision you've been struggling to make.
Because sometimes what looks like indecision isn't indecision at all.
It's fear of what your choice might mean.
It's an old belief you've never questioned.
It's an identity you've spent years trying to maintain.
It's a story about who you're supposed to be, what you're allowed to want, or what choosing differently would say about you.
And you can spend months trying to make the "right" decision without ever realizing that the decision isn't the thing keeping you stuck.
During The Story Under the Decision™, we'll go beneath the surface of the decision you've been circling and identify what's actually influencing your ability to move. You'll begin to see the difference between what is genuinely true about your situation and the meaning you've attached to it.
Because once you can see the story clearly, you can finally decide whether it's still a story you want making decisions for your life.
Sometimes what looks like indecision is actually loyalty to an old identity.
You don't need to have your whole life figured out.
You just need to come with one thing.
- One decision you've been circling.
- One conversation you haven't had.
- One change you've been considering.
- One place in your life where you know something isn't working anymore, but you haven't been able to move.
Bring that with you. We'll do the rest together.
What you'll leave with
By the end of our 90 minutes together, you'll have completed your own Story Under the Decision™ Map, including:
- The real decision you've been trying to make
- The story that's been influencing it
- The identity you may be trying to protect
- The actual facts and consequences you need to consider
- What staying where you are is costing you
- Your next honest move
You may leave knowing exactly what you're going to do.
You may realize you need more information before you decide.
You may discover the decision wasn't quite what you thought it was.
All three are progress.
The goal isn't to force yourself into a decision. The goal is to finally understand what's been making it so hard to trust yourself with one.
Your reset begins with honesty.
There are moments when you don't need another podcast. Another book. Another conversation where everybody tells you what they think you should do.
Sometimes you need enough space to hear yourself clearly. That's what we're creating here.
You don't have to blow up your life.
You don't have to have all the answers.
And you don't have to make the entire decision today.
But you can stop letting a story you haven't examined make it for you.
Pause. Listen. Begin.
Your reset begins the moment you choose yourself. Because when you go first, life follows.